Updated: Feb 1
Welcome to Chapter 20 of Dan Bennett - The Diary of a Bored Kid!
Good evening team, welcome back to another installment of the weekly blog!
I had a funny thing pop up on my instagram archive today...
This time last year, I had just taken over my new apartment in Boston...
To say a lot has changed since then is a slight understatement...
- Moved into a new apartment
- The world shut down
- Had a quarter life crisis
- Moved out of my new apartment
- The world opened up again
- Moved in with my girlfriend
- Left my job
- Went traveling (Sort of)
- Started the blog
- Moved back to Boston
- Started a podcast
- Lived with my gf's parents
- Moved back to the UK
- Had to stop the podcast because of tier 5 lockdown
- Attempted to travel again
- Had to cancel travel plans because of lockdown
And here we are....
It's been a rollercoaster and in 10-15 years looking back on these past couple of years will be very interesting. They have been character building to say the least!
So.. I have a few lessons that I wanted to go through that I've learned going through the past 12 months. As always, who cares what I have to say?
But hey, if you want to have a read about what I've learned then you may enjoy some of them!
So here I go:
The Lessons of a bored kid from an office cubicle...
1) Nothing that you think is permanent, is permanent.
Last year when I felt trapped having bad habits, questioning what I wanted in life, stuck doing things I didn't want to do.. You come to learn that these things always pass. It sucks in the moment, but it was the same when I was playing college sports and our Soccer Coach would be in a bad mood and would take his frustration out on us and make us Run Sprints all practice.. We had to tell each other, it has to end sometime. Same goes for bad and frustrating times. The storm always passes!
2) Go all in on an endeavor early doors...
Last year my gf and I were in a weird spot, we hadn't been going out with each other that long. Maybe 6 months? Before we knew it, the world turned upside down, everything got messed up and we were practically living together. This was earlier than either of us ever would have anticipated. However, I've come to learn, go all in. Early doors. Find out if it works and if it does, great. If it doesn't - great, you didn't waste any time. Go all in, early doors. 2 footed. Jump into it, and you'll find out really quickly if its meant to work out. (Fortunately for us, it did)
3) Everything is more terrifying in your head...
This is a good one.. Everything that seems scary, is always scarier in your head than in reality. I've learned that your brain is designed for comfort and safety. It is literally biologically designed through millions of years of evolution to protect you. So everything that seems scary is always amplified. Tough conversations are always worse than in reality. Leaving jobs, starting things up, meeting new people, doing things that are slightly different than you had originally anticipated, these things are always far more scary in your head than when you are actually doing them.
It's kind of like learning to drive a car, the first time you drive a car down the motorway is terrifying but after a while it's the norm. Unless you drive down the motorway with me, then it is still terrifying.
4) Perfect timing doesn't exist...
If you allow it too, you will always make excuses why this or that isn't the right time to do something. Financially, relationships, jobs, apartments, weather, chess club, laundry night, you will always make excuses for yourself if you let it...
“The stars will never align, and the traffic lights of life will never all be green at the same time. The universe doesn’t conspire against you, but it doesn’t go out of its way to line up the pins either. Conditions are never perfect. ‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it’s important to you and you want to do it ‘eventually,’ just do it and correct course along the way.” - Tim Ferris - 4 Hour Work Week.
5) Learn who your people are...
This one is going to sound cynical and I don't mean it too. When the world is crazy and everyone is just trying to figure it all out. Always know who has your back and who you can rely on. Often you'll find its not always the people you thought it would be. People come out of the woodwork that become really big aspects of your life! Embrace the change! It's liberating!
6) Don't miss out on the couple of beers on the Tuesday night...
As you may have noticed, I always blabber on about how I used to be in quite a stressful job environment. I was managing some key accounts that were worth a lot of money to the company I was working for. Typically, on more than one occasion this would follow me home. Never let the life you have built take away from the actual precious moments in your life. The precious moments aren't always the instagrammable idyllic moments that are plastered all over Socials for everyone to see, more often than not, they are just the cheap beers at the local Mexican restaurant where its you, a couple of buddies, with some chips and salsa. Don't turn down the Tuesday night beers, you'll miss it when you can't do it anymore.
7) Everything takes longer than you think...
Hofstadter’s law - Everything will take longer than you think it will take, even when you have accounted for it taking longer than expected. Starting businesses, building email marketing campaigns, building brand, building the dream life you want, building a property portfolio. Paradoxically, all of these take much longer than anticipated, even when you already know that these things will take a long time. In my very short time of working on 2 businesses, I have been astounded at how much work I have done, and still how much further it seems I have to go.
“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” - (I think this was Bill Gates but not 100% sure)
8) Don't take yourself too seriously...
From someone who has gone through life and has had to learn to not take everything so serious. No one is getting out of here alive, so we might as well enjoy it whilst we can!
That's why I have just a bought a Smart Car and am thinking about growing out the Tash again...
Can't take yourself too seriously when you drive a smart car, and have mustache.
So there you have it guys - My 8 lessons from the last year from the bored kid from an office cubicle. A lot has changed in a year, I'm so excited to get back traveling again, I am so excited to get back into a pub and have a beer, but more so than ever I'm excited to get back to a sense of normality.
It's been quite strange to be honest living in the UK as we have gone through a full lockdown, whereas comparatively I have friends in the USA who are living life fairly normally.
It's quite a strange comparing the two.
But we're nearly there... The storm will pass.
As always guys thank you for reading!
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